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About rowlandrs

I am a musician and an avid reading/ writer. I am married to a wonderful women. Blind dates are awesome!

The First Year

The first year of marriage is the hardest. During that time couples are really learning all the flaws they missed while dating. There are fights and maybe even one of you walking out.
I will have been married one year next month. This first year has been filled with ups and downs. My wife and I have learned a few things along the way.
Saying “I do” is the easy part. Being married is about learning, listening, and love. The three L’s if you will. First, together you have to learn about each other’s wants and needs. You won’t get anywhere if you don’t know what each other needs. How do you learn? You listen. Being a good listener is one of the most important qualities a person and have. A person can’t learn if they are always talking. I know from my experience that listening really helps. Sometimes my wife doesn’t think I’m listening but I am. Men hear everything but only remember what they want. For the men reading this remember these important dates: birthday, anniversary, and first date. Doing that scores a lot of brownie points. Finally and probably the most important is love. The word love is greatly overused in the U.S. I am guilty of using it to much myself. But it is still very powerful. I love my wife and know that she loves me too. Love is a powerful feeling. It controls a persons thoughts and feelings. Without love what type of people would we be. A marriage could not survive without love.
Well this first year together has been a blast. I look forward to many more years together. As long as I remember the 3Ls I will be ok. I hope this has been interesting and fun to read. Next time I will be talking about the need for guy time.